It’s Okay Not to OFFER to help

No Help

This past month several people have offered

  • to help me with writing my sponsorship letter
  • to send the letter to potential sponsors
  • to help with my presentation for the Blogging While Brown conference

And none of these people have followed through. Am I disappointed? Yes. Did it affect me greatly? No.  In fact, the whole experience has taught me a few lessons.

  1. You know who you can depend on in times of need
  2. Don’t turn down help if offered, but really access the credibility of the person offering and question their time and availability to assist
  3. People that you think have clout really don’t
  4. People you think will help you, won’t
  5. No one is going to look out for you like you will so you better do what you need to do for you or else you’ll be SOL
  6. Don’t be like those people

The experience wasn’t all bad. There were a few people who offered to help and they came through. And I want to thank them from the bottom of my heart.

However, to the people who offered to help and don’t follow through: It’s really OK if you cannot do it. For me personally, it would be better if you don’t offer at all than to offer and not help.